Going on a first date? Do it the right way.
Posted by: Lisa Jaye in Internet, tags: InternetDespite what some may have you to believe dating can sometimes be a real pain in the butt. With so many mixed signals out there, trying to make your way through the dating maze can really be tough. Here are some tips to consider when dating:
A shared sense of humor is important. Try to bring laughter to the date. Try to get a laugh out of the guy. That way you know you’ve got something. If he doesn’t get your jokes what else is he going to “get” about you?
Be yourself. People sometimes try too hard to impress. If they just relax a little, the date will go better and they will not have to worry about any of those little embellishments backfiring later on. The worst thing people do on first dates is lie. They are trying to improve their status so you will be interested in them.
Have realistic expectations about a first date. Some people start planning their wedding and others expect the worst. Usually all this will do is put a strain on the relationship before it even begins.
If you are meeting someone you know only through a personal ad or an online dating service be sure to go to a place with plenty of other people around. And do not blab out your whole life story on the first date. Keep it general: music, books, movies.
If you are comfortable and seem to be compatible set up a date to spend more time together. Remember that the first date is supposed to be fun. You are getting to know this person and he is getting to know you. It should not be something that feels like a meeting with your boss.
If the date turns out to be a dud do not make any promises you will not keep. Do not be encouraging if you feel no interest in further socializing. Be honest and say you feel there is not a basis for anything other than friendship and let your date take it from there. Pick yourself up and move on.
Finally, give your date a chance. Don’t be too quick to give up on someone if they don’t look like what you expected. Take the time to listen and look for their special qualities. You could be surprised.
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